When Brent and I first discussed wedding timing, there was one (seemingly) determining factor.
I was still in college.
We got engaged in Februrary, knowing that I had one more semester until graduation. After considering the idea of a winter wedding I (being me) did not feel satisfied.
See, both of our birthdays are in December- a week a part- the 2nd and the 9th to be exact. Then comes Christmas.
I wanted to spread out my gift-getting. There was no way my anniversary was getting thrown in that mess.
[just kidding, kind of.]
So we decided to go for it, to have our wedding in August. I’d always much preferred summer weddings anyway.
All this meant one major thing- I had to figure out a schedule that would best fit my newly married lifestyle, AND figure out how to take five classes while trying to work.
The Lord never ceases to amaze me. Somehow [ with the help of my personal registrar’s office aka. my mom] I crammed two of the classes into my summer [hence the procrastination of wedding planning until about one month prior], translated my job at Chick-fil-A into a paid internship [6 credits worth], and found a night class that I liked in walking distance from our little home.
I had life figured out.
But let me tell you something, it is not the breeze I thought it would be.
Beyond the fact that I have to drop my best-wife-ever status on Thursdays and purchase [for the first time ever] boxed mac n cheese and Ramen noodles for my husband’s dinners…besides the fact that I rush out the door as he’s getting home from work and don’t get back until he’s either exhausted or watching the game…my MOST major struggle as a married college girl?
Who am I? I ask myself this at least once a week. [by week I might mean day]. I struggle with the pressure balance, of wanting to be home, of wanting to do well in school, of wanting to work more than I am, of remembering i’m a student, of the desire to live up to my degree.
This week was one of those struggle weeks, and as I struggled, I also reminisced.
October 2010– Brent and I just broke up. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know who I am, and I ESPECIALLY don’t know why I’m here. I hate school, I don’t think I will ever graduate. I’m barely passing science, and I’m never ever there. I can’t stop crying and I feel so anxious- four more years is a lifetime. I’m never going to make it that far. At this rate I’ll be graduating in six years…and I have NO motivation to pick up the pace. Who cares about school. All I wanted was to get married and have a family-and my dream life just broke up with me.
I hate this.
Three years ago I was a freshman at Millersville University. My high school love had just broken my heard, I hated education and thought going to class was for lame people, I wasn’t taking a full load of classes, therefore behind in graduating, and my parents actually reccommended I go to HACC-or put school on hold until I got my act together.
I couldn’t tell you when or what hit me. But somewhere in my journey I found my niche. I buckled down and took classes all year round. I worked ahead for no reason but my own self-drive, [and, little did I know, the Lord’s perfect plan].
When I feel like I can’t make it through one more class, when I wonder what I’m doing with my life, what I will do with my life, I considere the contrast- October 2010 to October 2013. Same boy, same girl, same college, completely different story.
Sometimes I wonder why I ever doubt the Lord’s hand [working in my life].
***On a side note***
My stomach turns at the thought of all that dye in boxed mac n cheese. I was not cut out for this quick dinner stuff! SO, I found this awesome, quick and easy recipe-
Brent’s eating well tonight 🙂
Baked Mac & Cheese
- 8oz. Elbow Macaroni
- 4 tablespoons Butter
- 3 tablespoons Flour
- 2 cups Milk
- 1/2 teaspoon Salt
- Dash of Pepper
- 2 cups Cheese, shredded (I used Sharp, but any cheese that you like is fine)
Prepare macaroni according to directions on box.
- In a large saucepan, melt butter, add flour mixed with salt and pepper.
- Whisk until well combined, gradually add milk, whisking continually.
- Bring to boil and cook for 2 minutes, stirring constantly, reduce heat and cook about 10 minutes, until mixture is thick.
- Gradually add cheese and simmer until cheese sauce is smooth and thick, about 5 minutes.
- Fold in cooked macaroni.
- Place mixture in a 13 x 9 pan, and bake at 400 degrees for about 15 – 20 minutes until golden and bubbly.